The book is about how Co-Active Coaching would be beneficial in a school. There are many situations in the school year when a dose of Co-Activity would do a world of good.
In fact, there are quite a few times in my life in general when a bit of Co-Activity from the adults around me would have gone a long way to making my young life more productive, meaningful and enjoyable.
For example, the time when...
My brother was to be born
I had to learn to tell the time.
I had to learn to ties my shoelaces
I had to go to Nursery School (and my brother did not - yet)
I cut my finger badly - doing something wrong
We moved house
I started at Primary School
I was not doing well at 'times tables'
I was beaten up by the twins, on my way to school
I had to wear shorts in the winter (and I was quite tall)
I painted an amazing picture for the school art competition
My uncle called me a liar (for an amazing pencil drawing that I had done)
The choice of Secondary School
I had to wear a school uniform and a satchel
Not liking sports, and being bad at sports and having to do sports
Being touched by the Gym teacher
I was beaten up by the school bullies
Having sticking out ears
After school activities, lack of.
Choice of subjects to study to O Level (which and why)
Having few friends
Having strange friends
Having frequent headaches
Feeling left out (and wanting to be left alone)
Those long summers, when I did nothing
The French student who came to stay
Pressure to get a job during the last school summer
Pressure to get a job after school
Wanting to, and deciding to continue at Sixth Form (High School)
Saying "No!" to Dad's 'offer' of employment in his own company
Studying like crazy to prove myself
Starting my first income-producing activity
Learning how to deal with a lot of money, and being an 'employer'.
Choosing to go to University. and choosing which one (where and why)
Finding somewhere to live so I could go to University
Managing my zero income as a student
When I started at Primary School
If I could go back in time and be the Parent I needed at that time, it might look and sound like this. All the time, asking how he felt about what was going on in this moment. Just listening and remembering what he said.
All the time, telling him in a matter-of-fact way what he needs to know about this next step in life, growing up, being away from home, being with other adults, being with other children, less free play, more structured play, that there are different rules at school than at home, that change is an opportunity to grow, that learning is part of growing, sharing is part of becoming part of society.
And listening to how he responds to the upcoming change in environment, expectations, opportunities, And looking for the positive aspects.
Several trips to the library, to pick up interesting books to read together
Several trips to the stationers. to pick up pens and paper for him.
A walk to and around several local nursery schools, during playtime, to show him what nursery school is like.
Several trips to the shops to look at school uniforms, picking out the one that he thought looked the best.
Going to that nursery school, the one with that uniform.
Attending an Open Day at that school.
Attending Sports Day / Choir / some event at that school
A walk to and around that nursery school, during school time, to show him what nursery school is like.
Spend a day at the school together
Meeting parents with children at bthe school
Meeting older children at that school
Co-Activity? Active listening makes use of Curiosity, non-judgement, self-management